In this episode, Kimberly speaks with Luke Storey, host of The Life Stylist podcast, about his first book, A Horse Named Lonesome: Tales and Teachings to Reclaim Connection, Transcend Separation, and Discover the Divine Within, which comes out the same day as Kimberly’s Erotic Seasons. Luke traces how the book became an act of service, and how a vision of his own birth led him further back than decades of recovery and therapy ever had: an incubator, no breastfeeding, and circumcision, which he now calls male genital mutilation.
Kimberly widens the frame to the culture’s reflex to cut and intervene from the first days of life. At the heart of the conversation is something Kimberly has waited a long time to hear a man talk about openly: childhood sexual abuse, how grooming builds secrecy, how drugs and sex became anesthesia, and why Luke now sees those adaptations as intelligence rather than failure.
In this rich conversation, they talk about his years as an honest but unavailable lover, the two years of celibacy and solitude that rebuilt his foundation, biohacking as a form of control, whether women can lead men into this kind of work, and the moment he finally saw his wife Alyson and recognized himself.
Luke Storey Bio
Luke Storey is a transformational speaker, spiritual teacher, and the creator and host of The Life Stylist, the podcast he launched in 2016 to explore spirituality, biohacking, and personal development. A former celebrity fashion stylist, he has spent nearly three decades in spiritual inquiry and addiction recovery, work he draws on in conversations about conscious relating and holistic living.
His first book, A Horse Named Lonesome: Tales and Teachings to Reclaim Connection, Transcend Separation, and Discover the Divine Within (Balance, November 2026), traces his path through birth trauma, childhood abuse, addiction, and spiritual awakening to show how early disconnection shapes loneliness, and offers practices for coming home to oneself. He has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles magazine, and Men’s Fitness. Luke lives in the Texas Hill Country with his wife, Alyson Charles Storey.
What Luke Shares
- Why his first attempt at a book stalled, and the mushroom ceremony that changed his motive
- The ayahuasca vision of his own birth, and what his mother confirmed the next morning
- How an incubator, no breastfeeding, and circumcision shaped a lifelong abandonment wound
- Why preverbal trauma can carry as much weight as what we remember
- The loss of “inner sense”: what childhood sexual abuse did to his identity
- How grooming builds secrecy, and why a child can’t tell
- Seeing drugs and sex as intelligent adaptations rather than character defects
- Being an honest but unavailable lover, and what that still cost others
- Two years of celibacy, solitude, and taking himself out on dates
- Biohacking as a control mechanism
- Why no one could have talked him into this work, and what finally did
- Recognizing himself in his wife, Alyson
What You’ll Hear
- Two books out on the same day, with similar frames and different approaches
- Kimberly on her publisher asking her to keep “foreign countries” out of her first book
- Kimberly’s 10-pound baby picture
- Why most people never think about their own birth
- Luke’s fertility journey and the miscarriage that didn’t make it into the book
- Kimberly on birth as a nervous system overhaul, not an inherent trauma
- Falling circumcision rates and the rise of tongue and lip tie diagnoses
- The Russian dolls: linear time and the inner child
- Why male survivors of sexual abuse rarely speak publicly, and the men who opened the door
- Flinging the doors open or slamming them shut after a boundary rupture
- The scorpion and the frog
- “Warm sex,” and why it was foreign to him
- Pendulating from helplessness to absolute freedom
- Whether women can lead men into deeper work
- Conscious love as a circuit of reciprocity
- Kimberly on men’s work and the missing piece of sexual literacy
- Luke as a self-described kindergartner in sexuality, and still a student
Resources:
- Luke’s Book: A Horse Named Lonesome
- Podcast, The Life Stylist (Apple Podcasts): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1121467751
- Website: https://lukestorey.com
- Instagram (@lukestorey): https://www.instagram.com/lukestorey/
- Kimberly’s Book: Erotic Seasons: Tuning into the Rhythms of Women’s Sexuality and Spirituality (Sounds True, November 17, 2026).